Vince Guaraldi is a genius. (In case you’re asking, “Who is Vince Guaraldi?,” he composed the music for A Charlie Brown Christmas.) This genius became apparent to me on Saturday morning at Chick-Fil-A, when Chris and I stopped for a disgustingly delicious fast food breakfast after the gym. The tinsel, the lights, the Santa hats, the small tree, the “my pleasure!” perkiness of the counter staff — none of this made me feel like Christmas. But when those mournful, slightly discordant, slightly hopeful, hazy notes — doo doo do, duh doo doo do — played over the speakers, I looked outside onto the cold rainy day and felt Christmas all the way down to my toes.
What is it about Christmas that blends the bitter with the sweet? Why does it always bring that moment — sometimes early, sometimes late in the day — of heartbreak and nostalgia and longing? When the children were little, Christmas was easier — It was easier to step outside myself and experience vicariously their joy. The wrapping paper, the toys, the expectation, the excitement! But not so much with teenagers, when Santa takes on a decidedly practical streak, with school clothes and gift cards and books.
But there have been sparks this year. I sat in a high school auditorium listening to the school’s choral and orchestral program a few weeks ago, and during one song — an African carol I had never heard, in a language I didn’t understand — I broke into tears on about the second note and wept openly. It was beautiful. It was hopeful. It was inspiring. It filled me with joy.
I have thought about that fleeting moment a lot lately. I wish that I could bottle it and apply the contents liberally as needed. (Sadly, no.) But for the first time in a long time, I am looking forward to Christmas. Wait. That’s overstating it. For the first time in a long time, I am peaceful as Christmas approaches. And I chalk it up to this.
Even before going through a heavy Elvis Costello stage in college (who can forget “Every Day I Write the Book”?), I thought of my life as a book, with each year a chapter. An arbitrary chapter, no doubt, spanning 365 days (366 days, every fourth year) and ending December 31. How would that year’s chapter end? Would it be a cliffhanger? Would it roll easily into the next? Would there be continuity? Would there be lessons learned? December 25 comes awfully close to the end of each year’s chapter; it’s too late for forced gaiety or a dramatic change of course.
After a rocky start by its author, this year’s chapter has been a good one. Missteps have been corrected. Slights have been forgiven. Disputes have been resolved. Burdens have been lifted. And after a few years that can be described (charitably) as simply awful or downright ghastly (your choice), I have wandered out of the woods. I can look at my life and — perhaps briefly, perhaps fleetingly — find peace and joy and comfort. Which is what Christmas is supposed to be about.
It hit me while I was mopping the kitchen floor yesterday. For years, we had a cleaning service. The workers were very cheerful, but they approached cleaning the house like a fleet of sugared-up eight year-olds on Shetland ponies with polo mallets. Paint got chipped, many things got broken, every thing else got bleached and discolored, newly damaged furniture got propped up, and remnants of their carelessness got hidden in the trash. When I realized what a terrible mood having a cleaning service put me in, I looked past their cheerfulness and fired them.
Which led me to cleaning my own house again. I have found that spending 20 minutes a day on order helps: I can stay on top of things, and I can prevent a lot of disorder. And as I spent 20 minutes yesterday mopping, this thought hit me like a ton of bricks: It is good to clean up after yourself, because then you’re confronted with the mess you’ve made. Amen.
If you were to look into my house — the very house now being cleaned by me — on December 25, I think that you would see A Very Low-Key Christmas. A family. A dog. A small bright tree. A kiss under mistletoe. You would hear laughter and music and ripping paper and loving words and those sweet tiny digs that only those you love best can make. You would smell waffles. And you would find me there: happy, nostalgic, maybe a wee bit melancholy, pleased with this year’s chapter.
Merry Christmas.