Emmet’s favorite window in the house is the one in the foyer at the bottom of the stairs. My series of photographs of him at that window function like a growth chart; see his size as he defends the house against the next-door neighbor, a mail carrier, and dogs on leashes who are cheeky enough to walk by. It is at this window that I have painted him. And it is at this window that I begin to wake up the house every single morning, pulling up the blinds and assessing the day that awaits.
On Sunday morning, Emmet and I padded down the stairs, and through the lights beside the front door I saw where the squirrels had once again been digging in the front planters. As I pulled up the blind on the foyer window, I was immediately greeted by a squirrel on the fence post. With a certain degree of irritation, I rapped the window’s glass with my knuckles and watched the squirrel leave.
This was not enough for Emmet, who clearly wanted to reinforce the idea that the squirrel should not tarry. As soon as my knuckles left the glass, the dog lurched forward with an MMA-worthy punch that cleanly knocked a large semi-circle of glass right out of the pane. It was like a cartoon. The dog, who was not hurt, stepped back in wonder as I involuntarily yelped. Together we surveyed the damage as I told Emmet that this was coming out of his allowance.
Emmet learned how to punch from play-fighting with his human brother. These fights had been fun, complete with a lot of growling and tail-wagging, until Emmet learned the secret of felling a male opponent four times his weight. At first it seemed like an accident, and then I watched him sail across the living room rug in a canine karate pose, much like Hong Kong Phooey in the 70s Hanna-Barbera cartoon, and after the fourth KO, the play-fights suddenly ended.
It was not a moment too soon for my son, for in addition to hoping to have a family one day, he began to experience terrible mouth pain. He is recovering from oral surgery that occurred at 9:30 this morning, and if you have ever had your wisdom teeth removed, no doubt that you are involuntarily cupping your jaw as you read this. Sadly this is the first of two dental procedures on his slate, and to make matters even worse, he has final exams next week.
Even in near-isolation, life goes on.
At the end of last week, the state of Georgia famously opened some businesses: beauty parlors, nail salons, bowling alleys, gyms. Also opening was Emmet’s daycare, a once-a-week treat for a dog as spoiled as he is active. His daycare is well-managed and careful, with low employee turnover and great customer service. It is a business that has thrived, and until a pandemic hit, its biggest concern was whether it would beat a rival doggie daycare in the newspaper’s annual Best of Savannah polling. The owner sent a message that a limited reopening was the only way to keep her shop in business and her staff at least partially employed. So with a new protocol for drop-off and pick-up permitting zero human-to-human contact, it reopened.
In normal times, the owner works at a desk; the employees take active management of the dogs. But last week, when I picked up Emmet there she was: hands-on, thinner (and not in a good way), and stressed. That I continued to work almost normally seemed a tremendous luxury.
There have been things that I have not minded about the quarantine. I have genuinely enjoyed a quieter life. I am spending less and driving less, and there is time to tackle the yard, the closets, the unmade curtains. It has been a pleasure to see my neighbors out walking, yelling hellos across the street and waving. A woman with two small dogs — strangers to me, all of them — blows me a kiss every time she sees me with Emmet. I like having clear priorities: When this ends, I want to see my friends and family, occasionally eat fine meals in good restaurants, and travel.
But through it all — the punching dog, the dental woes of my son, the sadness I felt for the daycare’s owner — this week has been a good one. This week I got tired of feeling helpless. There is a saying that I love, that I first heard when I was a baby lawyer: When you don’t know what to do, do something. So I did.
In gratitude for our firm’s clients, I made a donation to Second Harvest Food Bank.
Looking for the satisfaction of doing something on a micro-level, I began buying groceries to stock a small food cupboard a few blocks from my home.
I told the daycare owner not to charge my prepaid punch card, but allow me to pay for these sessions and hold onto my punch visits.
I bought yarn that I did not need from both of the local yarn stores.
I gave a pansy painting to a friend, since every time I looked at it I thought of her.
I baked banana-versary bread to celebrate some friends’ wedding anniversary.
I sewed masks for my mother-in-law, my brother, and his wife.
I reached out to a different friend every day, whether by a porch visit, a text, or a call.
I dusted off my Good Habits Checklist and got back to work on my own good health.
These are small steps, but to be fair, the only person that I can change is myself. Sure, I am doing this to make myself feel better. But it’s still kindness, even if it has an ulterior motive.
I saw the power of thinking small when Emmet and I walked this morning. There is a high school a few blocks from my house, and over the past week, I have seen parents decorating the chain link fence that surrounds it with pictures of their children who are graduating this year. Today there was a parade of decorated cars that stretched for four blocks, and I followed the line to its terminus: the high school. Assembled in front was a group — probably teachers — holding signs, yelling, and applauding for all of the students in the cars.
As the cars passed me I raised my hands and clapped, and the drivers honked. It all about made me cry, but I knew that if I started, it would be ugly — a torrential downpour of six weeks worth of tears.
But I held it together. There is the overwhelming specter of the virus, and there are punching dogs who prey on larger opponents desperately in need of dental work. There are fissures and divisions and uncertainty. But there is community, and compassion, and plenty of small acts of kindness that still need to be done. Since I have some time on my hands, that is what I will do. The closets can wait.
ALC